Making Contact
So your first date went well, and you're waiting for the promised call. Several days later, and you're still sitting by the telephone willing it to ring. When someone says that they'll call you, and then doesn't, it's one of the most frustrating things in the world - particularly if you really like them.
Waiting for a Call
One of the hardest pieces of dating advice to take is 'If they don't call, they're not interested. Full stop'. If you're in a position where you're waiting for someone to call you and they don't, then try to put it down to experience and move on.
As much as you might like to tell yourself they've lost your number, or that they've somehow lost the ability to use the phone in a freak accident, you're just fooling yourself. Simply accept it - they're just not interested. If they're keen on you, and they really have lost your number (or had a freak telephone-related accident), they'll find a way to get in touch. Believe it.
And whatever you do, don't break down and call them. Just accept it and move on.
If they don't call, they're not interested. Full stop.
Making a Call
If you decide to call your date, make sure that you're sober, relaxed and not likely to be interrupted. If you get their voicemail then just leave a friendly message but don't ask for them to call you back. Don't, whatever you do, hang up without leaving a message - they'll be able to check their missed calls using 1471 or last known caller, which won't reflect on you particularly well.
Whilst traditional etiquette tells us that the man should make the call, many women take matters into their own hands and tell their date that they'll call him. This can be empowering - and it's safer than giving out a telephone number to a stranger.
Sending a Text
Sometimes it can be appropriate to send your date a text on the same evening - especially if they've got a long journey home. Something like "Had a great evening - safe journey home" is light and breezy, and shows that you are a decent, caring person too!
